Rituality: Rituals for Self Wealth
- M. Hakikah Shamsideen
- Dec 7, 2025
- 7 min read
“The focus here is not on ritual itself, but on opening up something in hearts and spirits that has been locked away so long that individuals can barely remember the source.”
-Malidoma Patrice Some'-
For much of my life, I felt disorganized and unsettled. I was scattered. To many, it seemed I was grounded, but inside, I was going through the motions, hoping I didn’t appear the way I felt inside.
For much of my life, I felt disorganized and unsettled. I was scattered and unfocused. On the outside, I looked grounded, but inside, I was going through the motions—hoping no one could see how unmoored I felt.
Slowly, I began weaving rituals, habits, and routines into my days. Nothing dramatic. Just small, intentional practices that built steadiness where chaos once lived.
And gradually, something shifted.
that used to weigh me down.
My health changed, too. I kept my doctor’s appointments, followed up, and stopped putting off what my body needed. I ate more of what nourished me. I drank more water. Tiny decisions, but they added up.
My stress eased because I had a plan for my week. I knew what needed attention, and I watched myself follow through.
My spiritual life opened up in a new way. Instead of thinking about studying scripture, I made room for it. I scheduled it into my day as a sacred non-negotiable.
And the more structure I created, the more freedom I found. The small things—choosing what to wear, planning meals—no longer drained me. They became automated rhythms that freed up my mind for deeper work and meaningful creation.
I’m not perfect, but I am present. And I know this: rituals rooted me. I am no longer stuck on the hamster wheel—I am free to expand, yet, no matter how far I grow, I can always return to my center.
These rituals gave me the gift I was searching for all along: peace.
For the last decade, self-healing has been my focus. As a result, I've integrated various healing practices and rituals into my daily routine. I engage in sound therapy, aromatherapy, oil therapies, and most importantly, I prioritize rest and prayer. I can feel the joy within my cells! Below are the seven most accessible rituals I practice throughout the week. Some are done daily, others weekly.
These practices have grounded me and brought order and peace to my life, which is my ultimate aim. I encourage you to incorporate one or more into your weekly routine. ***Click the titles to be taken to my instagram page for ritual details***
Find a form of prayer and do it to enhance your mind, build your chi [energy],
and attract positivity. - The Rza-
Prayer is the calm in the center of the storm. I used to be intimidated by the idea of prayer. I believed I didn’t know, didn’t have the right words, couldn’t pray like sister so and so; I was terrified of making a mistake.
A wise woman once showed me that there are numerous ways to pray: a touch can be a prayer, as can a song. Writing, walking, cooking, and making love can all be forms of prayer. In essence, everything is prayer.
Whether it’s journaling, mind mapping, using your planner, digital or analog, write your visions. Bring them from heaven to earth.
I've kept a journal since I was nine years old. Over the years, I’ve accumulated boxes of journals. In my younger days, up until my 30s, I would detail even the smallest aspects of my day. Although much of it is repetitive, looking back, I can see how I was trying to find my voice and identity. Since 2020, I've started using paper planning to track and reclaim my time. It's a different form of documentation but equally insightful.
Sacred Touch. Liquid Prayer.
Anointing oil, also called blessing or consecrating oil, transforms ordinary oil into a powerful spiritual symbol and tool. The process is quite simple. The oil is placed in a small, special container, and a blessing or prayer is spoken over it. Once prepared, the oil can be used in various ways, such as for healing or blessing your home. Anoint yourself with oil daily to remind yourself that you are:
A Living altar,
A holy vessel
A sacred being.
Time is your most valuable asset. Being conscious of how you spend this precious resource helps you value it and take ownership of your schedule. Time consciousness empowers you to be the driver of your life. A clear plan is the foundation of a calm week. Before diving into tasks, take a moment to map out the flow of your days.
Weekly Planning Checklist:
Choose your weekly focus.
Set your top three priorities.
Map the rest of your tasks around what matters most.
Block your time in your calendar, giving each task a specific home.
Stay flexible.
Check in mid-week for adjustments.
Close your week with a quick reflection.
Small structure brings big clarity. This simple checklist is perfect to print, save, and use every Sunday night.
Movement is essential for both physical and mental health, providing benefits like improved cardiovascular and bone health, better mood, reduced stress, and enhanced brain function. Regular physical activity strengthens muscles and bones, lowers the risk of chronic diseases such as heart disease and type 2 diabetes, and improves sleep quality. For mental health, movement releases endorphins and reduces stress hormones, leading to better mood and cognitive function.
Whether it’s a dance class, walking, boxing, Peloton, etc., get moving and break a sweat!
Feel the surge of confidence that happens when you push your body beyond perceived limits—a life lesson in motion.
Movement keeps us vibrant. Movement is medicine. Every form of movement—dance, yoga, tai chi, boxing, walking, and more—has been shown to invigorate stagnant areas within us, helping us to access more of who we are.
Growing up in a house of eight, Saturday mornings came with one rule: no Soul Train until the house was immaculate. Everyone had a task, and by noon, the whole place felt light again. My parents believed that order created peace, and over time, I learned how true that was. A clean home reshaped the whole atmosphere. You could feel the calm settle in.
Today, my rhythm is different. I clean throughout the week now, but the intention hasn’t changed. Order still brings clarity. It still brings peace.
That same peace is present in ritual bathing. Long before showers became the norm, full-immersion bathing—accompanied by herbs, prayer, meditation, or scripture—was used across cultures to restore the spirit. From Christian baptism to the Jewish mikvah to the Saturday night “get ready for church” bath, water has always been a sacred threshold. It reconnects us with God, with nature, and with ourselves.
When you step back and look at these practices together, the connection becomes clear: Cleaning your home and cleansing your body are both rituals of renewal. Both clear away what’s heavy. Both create room for peace. Both reset the atmosphere you live in—externally and internally.
Your home is a temple. Your body is an altar. Caring for both is a spiritual act.
And peace follows order. Peace meets you when the kitchen is clean, when the bed is made, when your keys are where you left them, and when you’re no longer wasting time searching for what’s lost in the chaos.
Many people ask, “Who has the time?”But disorder consumes more time than anything else. The way forward is small, steady steps—one drawer, one corner, one ritual bath, one moment of intention. Over time, the rhythm becomes natural. The clarity becomes noticeable. And the peace becomes lasting.
Cleansing your home and cleansing your body are not chores. They’re invitations to reset your life. Order brings peace—every time.
When was the last time you sought healing through water?
WELCOME TO THE WEEK’S END
Taking one full day off each week is essential to a healthy, fulfilling life.
Every Sunday, I pause. No grocery shopping. No laundry. No cleaning. No errands. Nothing that feels like an obligation. It’s the one day I give myself full permission to rest, be still, and enjoy my own company or time with the people I love.
I’ve kept a weekly sabbath for years; it took time for others to honor it. One of my happiest moments was overhearing someone say, “Hakikah doesn’t work on her day off.” That told me my boundaries were clear, and my rest was respected.
I think of Sundays as my weekly retreat—my personal sabbatical. The energy is slower and sweeter. People brunching, worshipping, sleeping in, cars unmoved in driveways… time itself takes a breath.
Your sabbath doesn’t have to be Sunday. Choose the day that fits your life. And if an entire day feels impossible right now, start smaller. Begin with a sabbath hour, or even ten intentional minutes. Build from there. Rest is a practice—one you grow into. And once you begin, you’ll feel the difference immediately. Over time, the renewed energy and clarity become a way of life.
Stress shaped far too many years of my story. Slowing down has helped me heal.
Choosing rest is choosing life.
One of my key scriptures on choosing life is Deuteronomy 30 11-20 {MSG}:
Vs. 11-14 says, “This commandment that I’m commanding you today isn’t too much for you, it’s not out of your reach. It’s not on a high mountain—you don’t have to get mountaineers to climb the peak and bring it down to your level and explain it before you can live it. And it’s not across the ocean—you don’t have to send sailors out to get it, bring it back, and then explain it before you can live it. No. The word is right here and now—as near as the tongue in your mouth, as near as the heart in your chest. Just do it!”4
“The word is right here and now—as near as the tongue in your mouth, as near as the heart in your chest. Just do it.”
That verse reminds me that rest and ease are within our reach. We only have to choose it.
As the Malidoma Some quote above states, it’s not about ritual for ritual’s sake. It’s about accessing Source that resides within all of us. These simple rituals, and others practiced consistently, help restore us. Using spiritual tools and techniques like those above enables you to connect with your higher self and call upon the infinite wisdom within you and surrounding you. Rituals form the bedrock of healing work and are essential tools to support your goals, your life.
NOTE: For December, on Instagram, I am sharing a ritual a day in
a series I call Rituality 31.
Rituality is the alchemy between ritual and spirit.
Recently, I opened a private Facebook Group, The Kitchen Table. At the table, we go in-depth on these simple spiritual technologies and more (AI = ancestral technologies), that will align you. I invite you to join us at The Kitchen Table Facebook group today!
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